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Living with Your Ex-Spouse During Divorce

April 13, 2020

These days, it is increasingly common for a divorcing couple to keep living together until their divorce is finalized. After a petition for the dissolution of marriage is filed, it is not necessary for either party to move from the marital home.

One of the main reasons couples remain in a house is because they cannot handle the financial burdens of two households. Another reason is to keep the family unit intact until a certain time, such as the children being out of school. Other couples stay together because they need time to find new homes that accommodate their budgets and other necessary requirements. In any case, it can be a very stressful time.

When Children Are Involved

Once the couple resigns to the fact that they must stay together temporarily, one of the first things to do is explain the living situation to the children. It is important to describe the situation and tailor it to the children’s ages, needs, and personalities.

Parents can decide ahead of time what to tell the kids and present a unified message, preparing for questions is also helpful. Children will not need to know every detail of the divorce at this stage. Remembering that their children’s needs should always be put first is the best guideline to use.

Basic Ground Rules

Some arguing is expected, but accepting this and trying to communicate calmly can make the process flow more easily. Separating couples who focus on civility, courtesy, and respect have easier times cohabitating until they can physically separate.

It is vital that spouses never saying anything bad about the other in front of the children or on social media. To make the living process go more smoothly, a chart or calendar can be helpful to assign chores and household tasks.

Financial Matters

Divorcing couples who are used to equally splitting bills may wish to continue doing so until the divorce is finalized. If only one spouse has a steady income, the other may need to find a job to bear more of the responsibility.

Savings and assets accumulated while the couple was married belong to both. Major changes, like removing the spouse from the health insurance plan or the joint savings account, may be ill-advised without the advice from an experienced lawyer that deals with family law.

Big decisions, like making large purchases or putting the children into new schools, should also be postponed when possible. Emotions are usually running high in these situations and can affect the ability to make sound choices.

The Need to Move Out

Sometimes, these situations become volatile when the couple cannot stop fighting or if there is domestic violence. If the environment becomes unbearable or unsafe, the living arrangement should be changed as soon as possible. Jeopardizing anyone’s physical and mental health is not worth it. In these cases, contacting a qualified divorce lawyer is the best solution.

Huntsville Divorce Lawyers at Hodges Trial Lawyers, P.C. Guide Divorcing Couples Through the Process

Contact one of our knowledgeable Huntsville divorce lawyers at Hodges Trial Lawyers, P.C. for trusted legal guidance with your separation and divorce. To schedule a private consultation, contact us online or call us at 256-539-3110. Located in Huntsville and Athens, Alabama, we represent clients in North Alabama, Madison County, Limestone County, Marshall County, Jackson County, Morgan County, and Lauderdale County.

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